2016 has been a fruitful year for me no doubt; I have grown tremendously; received greatly, and most of all became wiser than any other years combined. I enlisted and got into the Officer Cadet School (OCS) which was filled with young and hopeful cadets with immense pride for whatever reason — and got out, almost immediately. Consequently, after dropping out, I got into what I think may have been a blessing in disguise Security Trooper vocation — where I have the luxury of time to do what I want; and to think. People say that you have to get into OCS to utilise fully the time of your conscription but I beg to differ; for I have grown leaps and bounds after. The responsibility to make full use of their time lies on individuals, regardless of vocation — or even opportunity offered. But wait, the point of this post isn’t to talk about all these but rather, what I’ve gotten from 2016 that I wish will enable me (and whoever reading this) to aspire greater.
Things I have learnt:
1. Honesty isn’t really the best policy. Sometimes, it’s okay to lie. Lying is what helped humanity survive this long, and it is the enabler of connections and closer relationships. But don’t be a pathological liar that lies for the sake of lying you sick fuck.
2. Doing whatever you need to do first because you’ll need to do them either way — so why not get them out of the way when you can and leave the time which you had spared from doing it earlier to do whatever else you then want! Make it a habit, my friends.
3. However unwittingly slow you may go, do it. Start somewhere, because the only thing that matters is that you start and NEVER EVER give up what you thought was worthwhile at the very beginning. Things will undoubtedly get rough from time to time, and it will be for things that matter. But trust me, regardless of how much I know you or you know me, trust that you’ll get better at whatever you do in time to come.
“The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” — 老子
4. No matter how well-meaning your intentions are for others, if they do not think they are beneficial to them, they won’t care, and they certainly won’t take it well — perspective matters, very much. Let people do what they do, because there isn’t quite a point in subjugating others so to speak.
5. Expect little from people, or at the very least lesser. If you expect too much from people, at the end of the day, you only have yourself to blame when you’re overwhelmed with disappointment.
6. Everyone, at the end of the day, is looking out for their self-interest. Not yours, not mine, but themselves. However much you like to say otherwise, that is an indisputable fact of human nature, an innate and hardwired fact — am I already the true cynic or what?
7. If everyone is doing that, you should do it to your best ability, right? However crude it may sound: be selfish, for yourself. After all, you are who you talk to the most; you are who you spend most time with; you are the one in charge of writing your (possibly magnificent) book of life — perhaps the prologue isn’t your doing but you have control over all the other chapters of that book, and of course the ending. No matter whatever, don’t care if it doesn’t concern you, don’t know if it won’t affect you.
8. If you hadn’t already gotten the idea of the past 2 points, here it is straight-up: be concerned with yourself, if not all the time, at least mostly. Let the naysayers, the sceptics, the critics who don’t count, the non-believers and the belittlers do what they do — which is to judge you poorly and harshly — and you do your thing, you sparkling little piece of gem!
It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.
— Theodore Roosevelt, 26th President of the United States
9. Whatever life deals out to you: whatever you get, whatever you had before; whatever you will do, whatever is done unto you; whatever you are going to say, whatever has been said to you; whichever friend you made, whichever lover broke up with you; whoever will be a prick, whoever was a cunt to you; they all shape who you are today. The You today is because of whatever you had given/received. If the slightest bit of thing is retracted for whatever reason — if it’s possible, that is — the you today, will undoubtedly be a different one. Which is why I think why a friend of mine from before had said to me, “Do good, say good, be good.” Because at the end of the day, do unto others as you would have them do unto you; as they will no doubt do unto you what you had done unto them.
10. Life is exciting only because of the uncertainty in life, ain’t it right? Think of it this way, if you had Wiki-ed the plot of a book or a movie, will it be any exciting to you any longer? I highly doubt so. Perhaps you’d gain greater clarity as to where the story is moving, or when the plot is shifting — but you WILL never be truly amazed by the book or movie. So let me ask you this, will you take a peek at the future that is in store for you? Or will you live life in the exciting uncertainty and go through the unquestionable fall, the undeniable rise of your eventual success. Life is only as exciting as such; life is only worth living as such. Love your life, be grateful (however difficult it may be from time to time) and be thankful for whatever comes because they will shape you to be who you want to be. Trust that God has a way with things.
P.S. Not my concern but I implore everyone to read more in this 2017, as my belief is that if you know more, you will love your life even more so for the intricacies of it — consequently, be more grateful and thankful for everything that comes your way.
P.P.S. Also, I hope all of y’all have come up with your New Year’s Resolution and be ready to dive straight into 2017 dauntlessly — onward to a fulfilling 2017!